Alcohol is everywhere in our culture. Drinking is often viewed as an integral part of socializing and even doing business with others. It's relied upon as an anxiety reducer and a social lubricant. It's no surprise then that it's easy to over-indulge and create unhealthy habits with drinking. April is Alcohol Awareness Month, so a good time to reflect about your own alcohol intake and how it's affecting your health and daily life. Below are a few resources to help.
This PDF is their list of national organizations that provide support for addiction recovery.
2018 has some major changes in store at Flourish, and it's time to share our plans! We are growing both our space and our staff to be able to offer a wider variety of services and rates.
First, we will have access to two more offices in our current building at 509 N Winnetka. In addition to our suite 207, we will add offices 202 and 205B. Now that we can book multiple appointments at once, we will be able to see more clients. Plus we can now customize new spaces for play therapy, art therapy, and groups.
More space means more counselors! We are currently adding several new counselors to our staff at different levels of licensure, which will allow us to offer a variety of rate levels. For the last several years, Megan Kennedy has offered reduced rates while she worked toward her license to practice independently. We are happy to report that she is now fully licensed LCSW! Congrats Megan! While her rates are no longer reduced, we found a significant need in the community for lower rates, so we will be adding more provisionally licensed staff to our team. We have several LPC-Interns who will soon be joining us, and will possibly be hosting a few student interns. Both licensed and student interns will be able to offer more affordable counseling sessions. We are also adding two fully licensed staff who bring unique interests and expertise to our clinical team.
We will post bios and pictures of all of our new staff as we bring them on board in the next several weeks. Can't wait to introduce you to them!
In the meantime, meet Dr. Lin, our newest addition to the team. She is a counseling educator and supervisor, and she played a critical role in the development of both Kambria's and Rosie's counseling skills as their former professor and supervisor. Dr. Lin speaks English, Mandarin, and Taiwanese, and specializes in counseling Asian Americans. We are privileged to have her join us!
by Kambria Kennedy-Dominguez
I've learned through my last few years as a counselor that grief is not what I once thought it was. I used to think that it only began after a loss had occurred, and generally that loss had to be severe, like the death of a loved one or the ending of a marriage.
But then I started working in hospice, and visiting family members of those who were dying from terminal illnesses. Sometimes these family members had been caring for their loved ones in declining health for up to 10 yeas...or longer. And I realized then that the grief process starts much earlier than I'd imagined. The loss is not always a dramatic final ending, rather sometimes it's the small losses along the way that are the more critical experiences to mental health.
In this article, I will focus on losses that occur gradually, and the experience of grief as a cumulative process. However, of course, there are times when losses occur suddenly and unexpectedly. Such as losing a loved one in an accident or to an acute health condition. My goal is not to minimize or dismiss those very real and devastating sudden experiences of grief. Rather my goal is to help us bring light to how grief operates in other, less understood, ways. Here are a few examples. None of these stories represent one person I have seen. Rather they are bits and pieces of stories that illustrate how grief can operate in unexpected ways.
I was working once with a wife who had been caring for her husband with Alzheimer's for about 9 years, when he finally stopped remembering the vintage cars that had been one of the joys of his life. This particular escalation of his memory loss was one of the hardest parts of the journey for her. The cars had meant the world to him. He had spent countless hours looking at them, naming them, talking to friends about them, and sharing his passion for them. She asked herself, "Who was he if he didn't remember the cars? Was he still her husband, and why was it harder to relate to him now, to see him the same way?"
Another time, I was working with a husband whose wife had a form of dementia that in some ways mimics schizophrenia with visual hallucinations and delusions. He struggled most at times that surprised me. It wasn't when his wife saw things that weren't there or rambled on about ideas that didn't make sense to him. The difficulty came when his wife, who had always been diligent in decorating their home in meticulous detail, no longer recognized important objects from their family history. This change represented a tremendous loss for him because her remembrance of care for family heirlooms was fundamental to how he defined her.
Another time, a young woman came to counseling to work on issues in her marriage that were resulting in her drinking alcohol to excess at times. Over the course of our sessions she also shared that she had learned that her mother had been diagnosed with an illness that was degenerative and incurable. She was seeing a decline in her mom's ability to use words, to navigate around her house safely without falling, and to learn and retain new information. We discovered that her drinking problem had arisen just at the time that her mom was diagnosed with this illness. For her, the knowledge of the incurable diagnosis was the most difficult loss. She hadn't realized that she was coping with the loss by using alcohol, and that in turn was seriously impacting her marriage.
Discovering losses and recognizing grief are common aspects of work done in counseling sessions. Normalizing and educating ourselves about grief can have a tremendous impact on healing. The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. They do not always occur in this order, and do not represent finite periods of time or intensity. And they do not always begin after a death has occurred. In the case of illnesses and changes in loved ones that are more gradual, the grief process begins early. And knowing that grief starts early can help us better name our emotional experience and help us be more compassionate with ourselves through moments of suffering.
I regularly encourage clients to develop a "self-care" plan as a way to manage the challenges and difficulties that life regularly presents to each of us. Self-care can be anything that provides a sense of ease and comfort, and varies depending on each individual. Sometimes we identify things like exercise, meditation, joining social groups, reading, watching movies, aromatherapy, hiking.
Because my personal and professional experience tells me that yoga is an effective tool for self-care, I often encourage clients to try it and sometimes I teach them yoga during our sessions. Likewise, I often hear clients say that they find a sense of peace in the outdoors, I encourage them to go to natural places as regularly as possible, as much as our urban environment here in Dallas allows.
This past week, I came across two articles about these very things.
This article in Medical News Today outlines three new research findings that support the use of yoga as a supplement to treatment for depression. They each followed patients who scored high on depressive symptoms prior to starting a yoga program (Bikram in one study and Hatha in the other two studies) and found significant symptom reduction at the end of the program. In one of the studies, symptom reduction lasted for at least four months after the end of the program.
These study results are no surprise for those who have personal experience with the mental benefits of a regular yoga practice. We are learning more and more that empirical research findings support it as well.
The Japanese call it taking a "nature bath", referring to the practice of fully immersing oneself in the sights, sounds, smells and textures of natural places. What a wonderful way to describe the common feeling of peace that many of us experience when hiking, camping, swimming, and discovering beauty in nature.
This article in Time magazine outlines how connecting to "green space" can improve mood and wellbeing for many of us. It highlights that the quality of greenspace is more important than quantity. For instance, cleanliness, accessibility, and the ease of connecting to others are more important factors than the size of the greenspace. So for those of us that live in urban environments, local parks, walking trails, and tree lined neighborhoods are resources to our mental health.
So... if you're finding your mental health challenged today, if you're feeling down or anxious or stressed or angry... break out that yoga mat and do some downward facing dogs and sun salutations. Take a walk to your local park and circle it a few times. Take some deep breaths of the soft breeze. Watch the birds, and listen to them. Feel your heart beating as you move and know that you are giving yourself a wonderful gift!
by Kambria Kennedy-Dominguez
I am pleased to announce that I can now offer EMDR therapy at Flourish. EMDR is a therapeutic modality that stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It was developed by a therapist named Francine Shapiro in in 1989, when she noticed a healing effect from side to side eye movements for anxiety and mental distress. The approach has evolved in many ways since that time. I recently attended a 3-day EMDR training to learn how to use this modality with my clients, and I am so excited to share it, especially for those individuals with either complex or single-incident trauma in their history. Complex trauma involves repeated exposure to abuse, neglect, life-threatening or terrifying situations. Single incident trauma, in contrast, occurs as the result of a one time traumatic event. EMDR is helpful for all types of trauma.
EMDR doesn't always involve eye movement. Researchers have found other types of "alternating bilateral stimulation" to be just as effective. I use a tool called the Theratapper, which clients hold in either hand as it pulses in one hand then the other. Below is a photo of the device. We use this tool once clients have a clear understanding of the clinical reasoning behind it, and how this bilateral stimulation seems to have a healing effect on the brain's ability to process difficult memories and experiences.
Modern research into trauma treatment tells us that the physical body is highly involved in how survivors cope with and re-experience terrifying situations. The fight, flight, freeze response is an energetic process that occurs in concert between body and mind, and is designed to protect us. However, neural pathways that are laid down to respond in times of crisis or in times of chronic stress became habituated to be set off in similar but "triggering" non-threatening situations, which can significantly disrupt the daily lives of survivors. Disruption occurs because traumatic memory is implicit. Implicit memories are retrieved unconsciously, beyond our desire or will, such as flashbacks and intrusions. In contrast, explicit memory is consciously retrieved when and if we desire to. This distinction is key to understanding how EMDR works in the brain to heal the lasting effects of trauma. For more information about the complex but immense wealth of knowledge we now have in trauma treatment, here are a few highly regarded books about trauma's effect on the brain and body. Much of this research supports the use of EMDR as a treatment for trauma.
The Essential Stages of EMDR
Alcohol is in our culture everywhere. It's used to celebrate, to decompress, to connect socially, and can easily become a daily habit. If you are concerned about your own or someone else's drinking, it is helpful to know the signs of physical dependence and withdrawal, two key words to understand when considering whether alcohol use if problematic. When the body becomes accustomed to having alcohol regularly, it develops dependence on the substance, causing withdrawal symptoms in its absence.
- Tremors and shakiness
- Eating and sleep disturbance
- Elevated temperature
- Hallucination and agitation, ranging in severity
- Change in pulse rate, racing in severe cases
- Seizures and/or convulsions
- Delirium, disconnection from reality
In the book How to Change Your Drinking by Kenneth Anderson, he recommends three ways to prevent alcohol withdrawal.
- Don't drink every day. Have at least a few days of abstinence each week.
- If you are drinking every day, don't drink more than four. Here's a link to learn how to count your drinks.
- Don't mix alcohol with anti-anxiety medications like Xanax and Klonopin.
Reaching out for counseling and support when alcohol becomes a problem can be a powerful step in the road to recovery. It is one of the most dangerous substances to stop using because of the profound physical effects on the body.
Kambria Kennedy-Dominguez, Counselor and yoga teacher specializing in mental health, substance abuse and wellness.
Megan Kennedy, Counselor specializing in adolescents and families.
Stages Of Change